Why?
First of all, the world is not as dangerous as the news says. Most people don’t have arch enemies. I bet you don’t have one. People are not really out to get you. Don’t paint them as villains in your universe simply because you dislike them or you don’t get along well with them. If you want someone to trust you, let them do you a favor; a small one will do. They’ll feel at ease if they think you owe them. This is if you’re afraid to be alone.
Second of all, attachment to things and/or people can be a great source of unhappiness. Everything eventually moves on, whether to another phase, another plane or another state. It can’t be helped. The more you hold on to things/people, the more pain you’d feel when you let go. Imagine if you don’t let go. Will you be willing to watch the things or people you love most wither and die while you’re holding on to them? Such a macabre thought but that’s what happens. Everything and everyone has a certain end (unless science finds a way or the witches and wizards of Hogwarts do).
On a happier note, our emotions also move on. Only the thought of being alone can be paralyzing, but once you’re in that state, you will adapt. With time, it will be your new normal. Ella Wheeler Wilcox says:
I told you that sorrow would fade, love,
And you would forget half your pain;
That the sweet bird of song would waken ere long,
And sing in your bosom again;
That hope would creep out of the shadows,
And back to its nest in your heart,
And gladness would come, and find its old home,
And that sorrow at length would depart.
I told you that grief seldom killed, love,
Though the heart might seem dead for awhile,
But the world is so bright, and so full of warm light
That ‘twould waken at length, in its smile.
Ah, love! was I not a true prophet?
There’s a sweet happy smile on your face;
Your sadness has flown – the snow-drift is gone,
And the buttercups bloom in its place.
Lastly, if you let go with grace and dignity, it will be very much appreciated by the person who is leaving. It’s a show of support, trust, faith. You might think that leaving you is a selfish act, but the thinking works both ways. The person leaving might think that your refusal to let go is a selfish act. I think both actions are self-ish and I don’t see anything innately wrong with them. They’re just actions. We’re in charge of reflecting and allowing how these actions will affect us.
Ask yourself why you are afraid to be left behind. Ask yourself why you don’t want to be left behind. If you’re not happy where you are right now, move. If you think you’ll be happier with the person leaving, find a way to be with that person (videocall, anyone?), but don’t hold the person back.
It’s time to trust yourself and the decisions you make. Ultimately, your happiness is not dependent on anyone or anything. It’s up to you.
Weird and Wonderful 